Meditation ?


After having brunch with this amazing woman two weeks ago (you can read that article here: PERSPECTIVE), I decided to do some research and meditate for the next seven days. Due to the fact that two weeks have gone by, it is evident that I didn’t meditate for seven days in a row, I didn’t meditate for seven days over the past two weeks, period.

With everything that’s been going on, I was caught up in my own life and all of the insignificant drama that comes with it. Although I did not spend time meditating, I did begin running and am now in the process of training for a marathon. While this is not the path I intended to travel down two weeks ago, I have found that running is my current escape. Perhaps it’s too soon to tell what running will ultimately do for me, but for now it is the best place for me to forget about everything else and just be for a while. It’s a fast paced world – do whatever you need to do to live it.

Meditation: a practice of concentrated focus upon a sound, object, visualization, the breath, movement, or attention itself in order to increase awareness of the present moment, reduce stress, promote relaxation, and enhance personal and spiritual growth.

This is another way to find some peace and quiet in this crazy world. It is especially beneficial if you often find yourself rather stressed, ready to call it quits and crawl back into bed with no intention of getting up anytime soon.

According to the Mayo Health Clinic, meditation has been practiced for thousands of years. Although there are many reason to practice meditation, the most common use for meditation today is for relaxation and stress reduction.

There are many different types of meditation, from Guided Meditation to Mantra Meditation to Yoga. Each of these varieties has a different end goal and ultimately an end result. In general, meditation forces you to focus your attention on a specific thing, be it your breathing or a scenario you are envisioning in your head. It is also recommended that you are in a quiet space and in a comfortable position.

Side note: this is not a comfortable position.

Side note: this is not a comfortable position.

The beauty of mediation is that you can do this in the comfort of your own home – you don’t have to go to a yoga studio or a special meditation class. It has also been suggested that engaging in prayer can be as relaxing as meditating. Find what works for you.

Research has shown that those who mediate are able to resist their urges. By having this ability, it is suggested that your relationships will be stronger, and that you will make better decisions in all aspects of life. Learning how to do this is a difficult process. You have to make the conscious decision to meditate every day. When you start to meditate it will be incredibly difficult to sit still and you may not be able to clear your mind. This is expected – the important thing is that you continue to meditate every day, until it becomes a habit.

From what I understand, meditation is like exercising. There are a thousand ways you can talk yourself out of it, but when you suck it up and go for a run or complete that really hard set you feel better, accomplished. You only need a few minutes a day – on your lunch break, after you wake up, when you get home from work or right before bed. Perhaps it is important to take a step back from your dramas and be less self-absorbed – even momentarily, just to truly appreciate what you have. At the end of the day, these are the cards you were dealt. Play the best hand possible and live the life you are proud of.

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don't give up

“Be Kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.”

I never really understood the truth behind that until today. Maybe I’m a little bit selfish, but I have never spent the time to consider the burdens of others.

This morning I went to brunch with a few respectable women. One of the women in the group shared her story with us, reminding us that you can change your life and your perspective. She was an alcoholic spiraling out of control, she had reached Rock bottom (her words) and had “scheduled” her suicide. After all of these things that happened to her, she is grateful to be alive and doesn’t blame anyone or anything for what happened. Her new outlook on life is inspiring, and something she said stuck with me- “We all have a crutch, be it alcohol, meditation or something else. This crutch is the solution to a problem – not the problem”. From the outside looking in, we assume that a troubled individual needs to quit drinking or stop taking drugs and then things will be hunky dory.The truth is, you have to get to the core of the problem. Perhaps, we all need to spend a little more time working on what’s inside.

I think this woman has an incredible story that should be shared. She developed her own system of meditation, and appears to be very at peace with herself. I’m incredibly cynical, especially with anything related to meditation or holistic medicine. I can’t help it, I just have a really hard time believing that something like that can work; I find myself looking for scientific evidence. Despite my reservations, I’ve decided to give it a shot – just a few minutes a day to sit still. Although this may not work for me, it works for others and I respect that.

Sometimes we move through life without stopping to smell the roses. (Sorry for speaking in cliches). Its the little things in life that matter the most. What do you want to remember when you are 85, watching your grandchildren or great grandchildren grow up? Are you going to be preoccupied with that one test you failed, or with the boy who broke your heart last summer? Not likely. You probably won’t be concerned about your water bill or the fact that you ate ramen for three months straight to make rent. I would like to believe that you’re going to remember the good times. The time you laughed so hard you peed your pants, the time you broke into your house because you couldn’t find your keys (they were in you purse the entire time) or the time you ran out of gas and a team of runners had to push your car up a hill. You’ll remember your big life events – your biggest birthday, the first time you fell in love, the day you got engaged, the day you got married, the day your sister/best friend tied the knot, the day you have children and everything in between. You can’t go back in time, its useless to live with regrets. Learn from your mistakes, live in the moment. These were the cards you were dealt – you have the power to make them great.

I think that is what meditation is all about. Learning to let go and just be for a short while. I was told to start with a few minutes every day for seven days. Im apprehensive, but its worth a shot. I can do anything for seven days. Maybe I’ll become a believer. At the very least I’ll understand the benefits of meditation.